If a table is round, where is its head? Are Chinese banquet tables round because everyone is equal? Hardly. But an outsider will not understand how status is marked.
After a meeting with the Nanjing Education Department, we were invited to lunch. We got there early. We wondered if there was a special place for the host. Bonnie Zhang, one of Barry Jowett's staffers told us you could tell where the host was to sit by looking at the napkins. The host's place is the one where the napkin sticks straight up, higher "above the head of the" others. See picture above.